When we think about a potential future scenario that makes us uncomfortable, our mind wants to “confront” the thought. It wants us to meet the thought on the thought’s terms and to accept the future scenario as true – even if it has no basis in…

We all spend a lot of time trying to be consistent and trying to project a sense of consistency to other people. And we do that both because we think that inconsistency signals to others that we’re unfocused or undisciplined, and also because…

When we think about what we want for ourselves in the future, it’s natural for us to try to issue spot and for our mind to want to solve any problems that we see coming down the pipeline.  Our mind wants to think through all the little nooks…

When we’re envisioning how a future version of events will play out, we tend to associate those events with “The Struggle.”  We constantly hear messages about how “Life is hard”, “No pain no gain”, “Nothing in life is free” -…

Buffers are actions, routines, habits or thought patterns we engage in that help to keep challenging situations or things that we don’t want to confront at an arm’s length.  Our minds are incredibly skilled at inserting buffers into our day…